You don’t know what happens behind closed doors. We all have secrets and by comparing ourselves to other people, all we are doing is setting ourselves up to feel badly. Remember when you look at others that they are struggling with imperfections just like you are.
What people show us and what is actually going on beneath the surface are two completely different things. It can be difficult to remember this when we are going through a challenging time. When you are dealing with depression, for example, it’s natural to think there’s something wrong with me. Why can’t I do anything right?
But, there is no “right.” Every one of us is f*cked up in some way. People have become masterminds at hiding the ways in which they are f*cked up. But, what if we did something different? What if we embraced our flaws and shared what is f*cked up about ourselves? This would unite humanity in a way that we so desperately need.
Try honesty. I have found that when I share something deeply personal with someone, they tend to share something honest about themselves with me. Sharing your secret with someone can bring you closer to that person. You will find we are not so different from one another.
It’s time to stop hiding. That part of you that scares you: tell someone about it. You will be surprised to find out that they probably understand more than you know.